Just Add Hormones: An Insider's Guide to the Transsexual Experience

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  • Hardcover
  • 171 pages
  • Just Add Hormones: An Insider's Guide to the Transsexual Experience
  • Matt Kailey
  • English
  • 12 November 2017
  • 0807079588

About the Author: Matt Kailey

Matthew Scott Kailey March 17, 1955 May 18, 2014 was a trans male author, educator, and transgender activist.Kailey was born in 1955 in Omaha, Nebraska to Shirley and George Rod Kailey He earned a BA in Sociology and Psychology at Iowa State University and an MA in Education from the University of Missouri Kansas City He later moved to Colorado and began a career as a social caseworker.Kailey began his female to male transition at the age of 42, transitioning from a straight woman to a gay trans man After leaving social work, he became a writer for Out Front Colorado, one of the country s oldest LGBT publications In 2007 he became its managing editor, making Kailey the highest ranking trans journalist of an LGBT publication.Kailey documented his gender transition in his books Just Add Hormones An Insider s Guide to the Transsexual Experience 2005 and Teeny Weenies and Other Short Subjects 2012 He wrote a guidebook, My Child is Transgender 10 Tips for Parents of Adult Trans Children He wrote an award winning blog, Tranifesto, spoke at numerous conferences, and offered workplace training on transgender issues He also taught courses in psychology, human sexuality, and transgender studies at Red Rocks Community College and Metropolitan State University of Denver.Kailey died in his sleep of heart failure on May 18, 2014.


Just Add Hormones: An Insider's Guide to the Transsexual ExperienceMatt Kailey Lived As A Straight Woman For The First Forty Two Years Of His Life Though Happy As A Social Worker And Teacher, He Knew Something Wasn T Right Then He Made Some Changes With The Help Of A Good Therapist, Chest Surgery, And Some Strong Doses Of Testosterone, Kailey Began His Journey Toward Becoming A Man As His Body Morphed And His Voice Dropped, Kailey Began Noticing Subtle Shifts In The Way He Was Treated Men Suddenly Stopped Offering To Change Flat Tires For Him But Insisted On Talking To Him About Women And Bodily Functions Women Got Nervous When He Baby Talked To Their Infants But Routinely Asked Him To Move Heavy Things Around The Office In These Everyday Exchanges, Kailey Recognized The Many Ways We Define What It Means To Be Male He Also Realized That, With Few Role Models, He Had To Learn To Accept Himself As A Person Between Two GendersAs He Writes About His Transition From Female To Male, Kailey Answers All The Questions You Ve Ever Had About What It S Like To Live As A Transsexual From The Fear Of Public Restrooms To Deciding Whether To Pack His Pants, Kailey Explains What The World Looks Like From His New Vantage Point A Position People Are Discovering As Gender Transitions Become Increasingly Common More Than A Memoir, Just Add Hormones Is Full Of Sound Advice For Those Who May Be Questioning Their Gender And Through His Story, Kailey Offers Valuable Insights To The Families And Friends Of Those Who Have Started A Transition Funny, Fresh, And Incredibly Candid, Just Add Hormones Can Help Us All Consider And Even Laugh At Our Own Notions Of What It Means To Be A Man Or A Woman

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10 thoughts on “Just Add Hormones: An Insider's Guide to the Transsexual Experience

  1. Evan says:

    Informative, interesting A simple, straight ha foward book about Matt s experiences in the world as a transguy Invaluable in the sense that there are very few books written about female to male transexuals from their own point of view The book is neatly divided into sections, such as, Trans Minds, Trans Identity, Trans bodies, Trans Sexuality, Trans Pride, and Post Trans All in less than 200 pages The book is largely written from a happy person s point of view which I find terribly interest Informative, interesting A simple, straight ha foward book about Matt s experiences in the world as a transguy Invaluable in the sense that there are very few books written about female to male transexuals from their own point of view The book is neatly divided into sections, such as, Trans Minds, Trans Identity, Trans bodies, Trans Sexuality, Trans Pride, and Post Trans All in less than 200 pages The book is largely written from a happy person s point of view which I find terribly interesting and not quite believable For most people it is such a struggle leading up to transition and this is not covered at all really Maybe the book is implying once transition is done then it s like happily ever after Maybe I m being a little bit of an a__hole cause Matt s so f____ing together There are a few tough experiences explored briefly in the book, such as transitioning on the job, the great bathroom issue, and people, mainly close relatives, still slipping with the old pronouns All in all a definite must read for any FTM out there Thanks to Matt for writing it

  2. A says:

    In terms of helping a general audience understand transsexualism, what transition involves, why people need it, and the particular issues trans people as a community face, this is a pretty good book Kailey also seems to be aiming to educate trans people curious about transition and understanding the difficulties they will face throughout the process and after, and I think he achieves these aims as well His style is straightforward, with a conversational, occasionally light tone that makes for In terms of helping a general audience understand transsexualism, what transition involves, why people need it, and the particular issues trans people as a community face, this is a pretty good book Kailey also seems to be aiming to educate trans people curious about transition and understanding the difficulties they will face throughout the process and after, and I think he achieves these aims as well His style is straightforward, with a conversational, occasionally light tone that makes for a quick, easy read Those expecting a deeper memoir on Kailey s childhood, life pre transition, and what compelled him to transition will likely be disappointed Personally, as I didn t see this as the book s aim, didn t bug me as much.I do feel with other readers who were put off by Kailey s dismissal of male privilege a couple times near the beginning It put me off too, but as I read further into the book, it s pretty clear he thinks women aredeeply harmed by sexism, via scrutiny over their bodies and the fear they feel because of men s actions It s possible that he sees or saw, since he recently passed away his out trans status as effectively canceling out aspects of any male privilege he might be afford Or he really just doesn t see it But I would not say there is any antagonism toward feminism in general.He also covers the real difficulties trans people face, how they are adversely affected by marriage laws, how they are often stigmatized and targets for violence He deals with his own difficulties finding romance after his transition and fitting into the gay world as a trans man There is an attitude of acceptance throughout, but great honesty in conveying the real struggles he and others far worse off must go through.Really, my only major criticism is the book is structuredas a collection of short essays and is thus rather spotty, even though it is organized in related sections This is pretty minor, though, compared to the overall value of the content

  3. Adrianne says:

    What would you think of a newly out book titled Just Add Hormones with a cover design featuring two huge test tubes, the sort you expect to see on a biochemistry manual Clinical, too clinical is what I thought,than probably sterile of humor and devoid of linguistic merit I have been misled I noted the title at the bottom of my gender studies to read list, and it wasn t until after I had pretty much read everything else available in the field, that I eventually did pick a copy of What would you think of a newly out book titled Just Add Hormones with a cover design featuring two huge test tubes, the sort you expect to see on a biochemistry manual Clinical, too clinical is what I thought,than probably sterile of humor and devoid of linguistic merit I have been misled I noted the title at the bottom of my gender studies to read list, and it wasn t until after I had pretty much read everything else available in the field, that I eventually did pick a copy of the book And I couldn t put it down I was hooked to its delightful, fascinating, full of laugh out loud humor and verbal wit, story Is it really so difficult to be a man, a transman in particular Having just read the personal account of someone who has lived in both the realms of women and trans men, I would probably reconsider, if I were to transition Or at least think twice

  4. Ben says:

    Yay An easy to read book of reasonable length about what it s like to be transsexual today specifically female to male, though the author does a great job of expressing the universality of The Trans Experience opening in Vegas August 2008 Cool cover design Kailey s writing style is engaging and personable, with a great mix of personal anecdotes and broad examples Yay, talking about gender neutral bathrooms Though I understand that the book is about transsexuals rather than transgenders, Yay An easy to read book of reasonable length about what it s like to be transsexual today specifically female to male, though the author does a great job of expressing the universality of The Trans Experience opening in Vegas August 2008 Cool cover design Kailey s writing style is engaging and personable, with a great mix of personal anecdotes and broad examples Yay, talking about gender neutral bathrooms Though I understand that the book is about transsexuals rather than transgenders, the neutral pronouns ze, hir, and nu were included in the glossary without being used at all in the text proper Wherefore No mention of metoidioplasty in the text proper or glossary, though phalloplasty is referenced several times

  5. Julian Pecenco says:

    A reasonable book, with some interesting observations, but it didn t really flow very well I had really hoped forof a memoir, and it left me wanting to knowof his personal story, particularly given his experience of being so femme as a female I recognize that for those those new to trans issues, some background might be needed, but it really felt muchlike yet another Trans 101, rather than an engaging memoir I m currently in the midst of listening to Chaz Bono s new book, T A reasonable book, with some interesting observations, but it didn t really flow very well I had really hoped forof a memoir, and it left me wanting to knowof his personal story, particularly given his experience of being so femme as a female I recognize that for those those new to trans issues, some background might be needed, but it really felt muchlike yet another Trans 101, rather than an engaging memoir I m currently in the midst of listening to Chaz Bono s new book, Transition, which I am finding muchsatisfying

  6. Arna says:

    2.5 3 stars for me I purchased this book as I currently have a family member undergoing female to male transition, and I was interested to read about the experience from the point of view of someone who has been there and done that While there were a number of interesting points made, and it was a good summary of one person s experiences, I didn t feel like I had any additional insights into the process or experience, so the title possibly slightly oversold the premise.

  7. Courtney says:

    Incredibly shallow and simplified account of the trans experience Kailey s half defensive, half preachy tone accented by trite, unfunny similes did little to enlighten the reader as to the motivations and internal struggle felt by the trans community Perhaps this would be helpful for someone who knows absolutely nothing about queer or trans culture But even then, I would hesitate to recommend this remarkably incomplete monologue.

  8. JM says:

    Society has a seething obsession for everything that breeds limits categories, labels, definitions, norms Intangible stoppers Imagined walls From a practical point of view, these limits are necessary to maintain order The problem, however, lies in society s inclination for confinement We tend to put too much faith in givens that, when alternatives and other possibilities turn up, we either crouch back in irrational fear or launch headfirst in irrational hostility This overblown faith in g Society has a seething obsession for everything that breeds limits categories, labels, definitions, norms Intangible stoppers Imagined walls From a practical point of view, these limits are necessary to maintain order The problem, however, lies in society s inclination for confinement We tend to put too much faith in givens that, when alternatives and other possibilities turn up, we either crouch back in irrational fear or launch headfirst in irrational hostility This overblown faith in givens is manifested in heteronormativity in the binary gender system, in strict and razor sharp definitions of masculinity, femininity, and now, even of homo, bi and trans sexuality.Matt Kailey s Just Add Hormones An Insider s Guide to the Transsexual Experience challenges society s predisposition towards restrictions and restrictiveness In less than two hundred pages, Kailey gives an extensive and occasionally hilarious walkthrough of his experiences, plights, and views as a gay transsexual A tricky part of discussing LGBTQ experiences and issues, especially in first person, is that one might get too self absorbed and end up passing what s personal off as the general thereby hurting instead of upholding diversity, a byword of LGBTQ movements Kailey dodges this trap by being clear about what is and what is not his And that s not without being relatable His insistence on similarities amid differences, for one, makes the book speak even to non transpeople.What I find most laudable about Just Add Hormones is what I also consider to be the best evidence of its being relatable its use of simple language Throughout the book, Kailey stresses the importance of educational dialogue in making our world alivable place for transpeople and the rest of non heterosexuals, for that matter Not only does light and unassuming language get the book s substance right across, it also creates the impression that, contrary to popular belief, transpeople s lives can be grasped and understood just as possibly as other lives out there.The order in which the book s points were organized and presented simulates a transsexual s journey from the cumbersome, hormone driven adjustment phases to the rather transcendence cause oriented post transition The first parts open one s eyes to realities that transpeople have to face every day DSM s pathologization of transsexuality through the manual s listing down of the category as Gender Identity Disorder or GID , the difficulties of self identification and social interaction for those who are passing by the so called Gray Zone, and the ups and downs of taking hormones There are at least a couple of things to learn from these discussions First, that transition iscomplex and delicate than it is generally understood One of the hardest parts of transitioning, I realize, is going through adolescence again at the time of adult responsibilities and steeper expectations I can only wonder how this part can be worsened by gender discrimination and oppression Another thing to keep in mind is that changes do not happen overnight Physical and physiological changes i.e the effect of injected hormones take several days And that s not even accounting for the emotional and psychological adjustments that go with the changes, which are also changes in themselves But transsexual experiences, I believe, comprise only a portion of Just Add Hormones Way beyond being An Insider s Guide to the Transsexual Experience , the book can be anybody s guide to understanding the ways by which society and certain social constructs operate, as well as to coming to terms with the incongruence of sexual orientation and gender identity Kailey s discussions of society s puffed up fascination with female breasts and male phallus actually had me rationalizing such fascination to myself Part of the reason, I believe, has to do with the hype and attention that the media afford the mentioned body parts through the ideal bodies that the said sector disseminates and glorifies As a media scholar and occasional practitioner , I can attest to the media industry s unapologetic nonchalance towards its manufacturing of reductive and alienating ideals Regrettably, though, media representation issues are shrugged off in passive acceptance, that is within the industry just as much as they are lambasted in the academe It is also important to note that, most of the time, tinkering with representations lies beyond the power of an ordinary media practitioner Somehow, Kailey was right in pointing a finger to media s being driven by advertising revenues No matter how badly certain media practitioners want to cater to the underrepresented instead of settling with cut and dried images or stereotypes , program sponsors are people who are trained not to gamble in wooing and buying audiences, they d rather stick with traditional, tried and tested but actually dated methods Most of them fail to see audiences as critical and dynamic Still in regard to the book s discussion of society I appreciate how Kailey doesn t wash his hands clean of qualified subscription or falling victim to the social ideals and norms that he criticizes By not being self righteous, he puts into light another unpopular reality that discrimination and hatred exist even within homo, bi, and trans communities Akin to this recognition of complexity is his underscoring of diversity and intersectionality of LGBTQ s varied interests and affiliations, and his acknowledgement of gender s being only one of the possibly incalculable identities out there.Beyond the realm of the personal, Just Add Hormones theoretical strength lies in its presentation of the divide between sexual orientation and gender identity I believe that anyone who reads the book will eventually get on to asking why, in the first place, is there a need to reconcile the two Kailey s being both gay and trans contributed the most to the effectiveness of the book s exposition of the SO GI incongruence At the risk of seeming naive, I find Kailey s self label gay transman peculiar This is the first time that I have come across someone who chose to transition without being formerly attracted to the opposite sex The common notion is that transpeople embark on transitioning to fend off the guilt that same sex intercourse brings about a notion that assumes all transpeople to be hapless slaves of heteronormativity Just Add Hormones effectively pounds this notion to smithereens One thing that struck me was the fact that Kailey chose to transition with the knowledge that, by doing so, he would affirm DSM s diagnosis of him It must be awfully tricky, believing that there s nothing wrong about you but still choosing to undergo something that is professionally considered a cure , all because it s the only way you could become yourself It s like pleading not guilty of a crime but still choosing to go to prison I believe in free will and in having multiple options, but with society s obsession with providing diagnoses , I guess we really don t have much to choose from, after all Or better still, I guess everything is really just a matter of perspective.Despite Kailey s identity which struck me as peculiar and views which lean towards changing society, doing away with heteronormativity, and the like , I do not see him on the extreme end of radicalism, towards which, I would like to think, my views regarding sex and gender are bent He believes in a core personality , in similar issues, wants, desires, and dreams The way I see it, Kailey stands somewhere between assimilationism and queer, on what I used to regard as a rather safe position But to map out and to sling crap at the stance in question are to miss the point If there s one thing that the book makes known, it s that we really don t need clear cut categories and definite answers, if having them meant closing the doors of our understanding We needn t confine ourselves within givens, if doing so meant unreasonably negating unpopular labels, and if doing so meant categorically denying the existence of still unborn possibilities

  9. Danni Green says:

    I appreciated reading pieces of the author s story, as I always appreciate reading trans people s tellings of their own stories It felt frustrating that the author overgeneralizes from his own experience to try to portray a sense of universality to the trans narrative which doesn t reflect reality and also served to undermine his telling of his own story.

  10. David Som says:

    This was one of the first pieces of trans literature I ever read, and to this day it holds a dear place in my heart and memory In Just Add Hormones, Matt Kailey tells his story of his experience as a trans man and how he has coped with both the good and bad along the way.